【Eat Pray Love】及我的反思

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今天去逛了城市運動公園，下午回來順便就把璟璟推薦的片子給看了。

現在頭腦還不能完全釐清，所以先把裡面幾個很有感觸的橋段摘出來吧：

第一個：

女主在羅馬廢墟的一段感悟及寫給男友的信。

男主： What if we just acknowledge that we have a screwed-up relationship, and we stick it out anyway?

We accept that we fight a lot and we hardly have sex anymore, but that we don't wanna live without each other.

And that way we can spend our lives together.

Miserable but happy not to be apart.

女主：Remember when you said we should live with each other and be unhappy, so we can be happy?

Consider it a testimony to how much I love you that I spent so long pouring myself into that offer trying to make it work.

But a friend took me to the most amazing place the other day. It's called the Augusteum.

Octavian Augustus built it to house his remains. When the barbarians came, they trashed it along with everything else.
 
The Great Augustus, Rome's first true great emperor, how could he have imagined that Rome, the world, as far was concerned, would one day be in ruins?

It's one of the quiestest and loneliest places in Rome. The city has grown up around it over centuries. It feels like a precious wound like a heartbreak you won't let go of. Because it hurts too good.

We all want things to stay the same, David. Settling for living in misery because we're afraid of change of things crumbling to ruins.
Then I looked around in this place, at the chaos it's endured the way it's been adapted, burned, pillaged, then found a way to build itself back up again, and I was reassured.

Maybe my life hasn't been so chaotic. It's just the world it is, and the only real trap pis getting attached to any of it.

Ruin is a gift. Ruin is the road to transformation.

Even in this eternal city, the Augustus showed me we must always be prepared for endless waves of transformation.

Both of us deserve better than staying together, because we're afraid we'll be destroyed if we don't.


很長的自述，沒耐心看算了~~就當我自己溫習英文，重新回味一遍。

離開電影，反觀自己：

學會坦然面對自己，面對自己可能犯下的錯誤，面對自己最脆弱的地方，然後釋懷，放開。

老子說過：愈柔軟，愈堅強。

其實很多問題在某一個階段爆發出來，肯定是一個量變引起質變的過程。不要讓愧疚纏著你難以自拔，反觀內心，找到什麼才是你真正想要的。那些看起來很美的東西，去毀滅他們，然後才能改變。

但所有的前提，請先看清自己，學會自處，不要為了填補空白，填補時間而尋找其他外界的安慰，而是要能夠真正的面對自己，面對自己的一切，並接受他們。

當我們敢於毀滅原有的生活模式，才能看見轉彎之後更寬廣的路；當我們改變了對待自己的方式，才能真正面對彼此的問題；當我們不再害怕偶爾失去平衡，或許才能達到真正的平衡。

做好準備，迎接全新的自己破殼而出。並堅信，更優秀的自己才會遇見更優秀的人，自己一個人過日子能過的滋潤，幸福，滿足的人才能吸引同樣的人。