我為什麼會愛你？

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我為什麼會愛你？
是因為你先發現了我，還是我依賴上了你？
如果世界上還有別的選擇，我們還會在一起嗎？
這是是命中注定的姻緣，還是我們做出的理智選擇？

電影裡的男主是在孤單寂寞的太空中愛上了女主的聲音，她的文字和想法（他自己是這麼說的，誰知道真相是啥呢？！）；
而女主是為什麼愛上了男主呢？是一開始男主的陪伴？還是後來的感動，或者是害怕孤伶伶的一個人？
如果那船上還有別人，他們還會在一起嗎？

如果可以有平行宇宙，而且可以通過IRB，並找到被試，很想做這樣一個實驗：
－ 把同一對男女放在多個不同的平行宇宙中，
－ 宇宙a可以是電影中的太空飛船，或者是亞當夏娃初嘗禁果後的新世界，重點是在這個宇宙里裡面只有這一對男女；
－ 宇宙b是和宇宙a同樣的環境，衣食無憂，只是多出來其他5000的其他男女；
－ 宇宙c同a，b，不過多出來10000的其他男女；
－ 同理，可以一直把實驗組做到宇宙d，e，f，g，到z，每個宇宙多5000人；
－ 以50年為實驗期限，觀察這一對男女在不同世界中的人生路徑。
於是，問題來了，
她和他會在不同的世界中，同樣的相愛嗎？
   － 如果會，是為什麼呢？她和他在每個世界中的相愛路徑什麼樣的呢？
   － 如果不會，為什麼呢？

當然這個實驗估計是無法實施的，不過的確有科學家研究過我們為什麼相愛的話題，比說這個TED的演講，陷入愛河其實很簡單：https://www.ted.com/talks/mandy_len_catron_falling_in_love_is_the_easy_part?language=en

她的理論是：Love didn』t happen to us. We』re in love because we each made the choice to be. 她對不同的男女做了實驗， 提出如果可以完成以下的問題，他們就很可能愛上對方，你相信她的理論嗎？我把問題列出如下：

Set I
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a 「perfect」 day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you』ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven』t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true 「we」 statements each. For instance, 「We are both in this room feeling ... 「
26. Complete this sentence: 「I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... 「
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you』ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven』t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

你如果讀到了這裡，我就告訴你一個小秘密吧，我問了前男友所有的這些問題，然後我們分手了。